1My child gets unhurried, one-on-one attention from me most days.
2When my child is upset, I lead with comfort before correction.
3I notice and name what my child seems to be feeling.
4We share small moments of pure fun with no agenda.
5Our days have a predictable rhythm my child can count on.
6When I set a limit, I follow through calmly rather than caving or exploding.
7My child knows what to expect around meals, naps and bedtime.
8I give a little real choice on small things so fewer moments become battles.
9When my child melts down, I can usually stay regulated myself.
10I can hold a limit and stay warm at the same time.
11After a hard moment, we reconnect and repair.
12I rarely feel like I’m being pushed into a tug-of-war.
13My child gets stretches of unstructured, open-ended play.
14I follow my child’s lead in play instead of directing it.
15We talk, read or sing together on an ordinary day.
16Screens don’t crowd out play, movement and sleep in our home.
17I get enough basics (sleep, food, a break) to parent the way I want to.
18I have at least one person I can be honest with about the hard days.
19I’m as kind to myself about mistakes as I’d be to a friend.
20When I’m depleted, I have ways to top myself back up.
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